Thursday, December 21, 2006
our first wedding gift and some lessons learned from the aussies
at past three in the afternoon, my workmate belinda, told me that she's gonna show me something. so i thought it was work-related. but she brought me to the lunchroom and boy was i surprised!
all our workmates were there and there's this big chocolate cake on the table and there's chips all over. it was an afternoon tea in honor of me (and chris)!!!!!
as in wow talaga! i never expected anything of that sort. i mean, all this time i've been really quiet about the wedding. there's a few ones close to me that knew about it but i don't really talk about it much since the wedding isn't even happening here.
but they were so thoughtful...i was beaming when they were telling me that the afternoon tea is in honor of me and that they wish me and chris a happy marriage.
and the best thing was, they even got me (us) a wedding present:
i was really touched by their gesture. at first i was so speechless, i couldn't say a word. i can't believe that they would do something like that for me. but fortunately, i found my tongue (haha!) and was able to tell them something about the wedding and about me and chris and it was their turn to be in awe. finally, they knew about our love story and they were amazed to know that chris and i were able to handle our long distance relationship well.
after our afternoon tea, we all went to our desks for awhile then one by one, we started going to the nearby pub to have drinks. i had one beer (yech!). i don't like beer but i had no choice because apparently the pub doesn't do cocktails (jologs!). but i enjoyed an hour of chitchat with my workmates. at one part of the conversation, they were talking about their 1st wedding, 2nd wedding, failed marriages, divorces, etc. you might be thinking "what the fcuk?i'm getting married and these people are talking about failed marriages?" but it's actually the opposite. it's amusing to hear them talk about their marriage fiascos. they talk about it as if it's the most natural thing on earth.
compared to us filipinos, some reaction would be "naku, sakal ka na" ---it has a negative vibe. coming from a culture that believe in staying married for the rest of eternity, parang negative diba?. but here, even after their failed marriages, they're still happy (i mean, of course, they probably had the worst time) and they're still happy to see a person get married.
this is what i learned from aussies today: that if you wanna get married, then get married! enjoy it and love it while it last. if it fails, you get hurt, you get over it and one day you'll love again. it's okay to fail and it's okay to try again.
some of my workmates decided not to get married again after the second marriage. but what's important is that they were able to get over it and still be happy about life.
so that's today for me...receiving and opening our first wedding gift and reading our first wedding card and learning a thing or two from the aussies. 
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