Friday, September 08, 2006
pain and trauma in one day
i was greeted by chris' email this morning and his email brought pain...our invites supplier, AMIS Printing, has backed-out from doing our wedding invites!
as soon as i read the email, i frantically called chris and asked him what happened. he said rica told him that AMIS cannot accommodate us due to heavy workload. for the first few minutes of conversation, all we did was cry together. we felt betrayed by a friend.
before we left for work overseas, chris assured rica that we have picked AMIS to do the invites for us and she agreed. for months, we kept in touch via email and sometimes talked about invites. in one of the emails, rica even mentioned to me that she's excited to see the design of chris' invites.
when august came, chris sent the design to rica for quotation. the design was complete with specifications. it was chris' masterpiece and we can't wait to see the output. we were very excited.
last week, rica gave chris an estimated quote. we found it too pricey. so chris made alterations with the design and sent it again this monday. it was yesterday that chris called to confirm the costs of invites. and it was ONLY then that rica dropped the news like a bomb.
what hurts us most was that rica was a friend that we trusted. she could have told us in june or july what the situation was, just to warn us or something. but she waited til we were able to send the design TWICE and were settling the final costs. she could have had the etiquette or decency to tell us beforehand, knowing that we're both overseas, SANA she was sensitive enough to know that chris and i were somehow not accessible enough to find suppliers that easy. hindi biro ang mag-organize ng wedding overseas, lalo na kung magkahiwalay ang bride and groom.
chris and i cried together because we felt cheated and betrayed. ang sakit sakit ng ginawa nya lalo na kay chris.
when we were talking and somehow trying to cope with the pain, i said " let's try to be happy, kasi malapit na ang bday mo" and he said, "oo nga, happy bday to me". lalo akong naiyak. a person as nice as chris, he doesn't deserve to be betrayed just like that.
please don't get us wrong, we were not merely crying just because of the invites (invites lang yan, marami pang suppliers dyan na baka mas magaling pa), we are hurt we can't believe somebody we treated as a friend can be mean to us at a time like this. it's hard to trust people tapos bigla kang iiwanan sa ere (take note, we only have 4 months before the wedding).
after talking to chris, i called our wedding coordinator regarding this concern and as any professional coordinator, she has a solution already. hopefully, we'll be able to negotiate with a new invites supplier soon.
so now we're moving on. we've cried about this and that's enough. no more sense in more crying over spilled milk. maybe someday, we'll be able to forgive (more than anything else, this is about friendship that's lost), but things will never be the same again. we will never forget the pain and trauma that AMIS has caused us.
as soon as i read the email, i frantically called chris and asked him what happened. he said rica told him that AMIS cannot accommodate us due to heavy workload. for the first few minutes of conversation, all we did was cry together. we felt betrayed by a friend.
before we left for work overseas, chris assured rica that we have picked AMIS to do the invites for us and she agreed. for months, we kept in touch via email and sometimes talked about invites. in one of the emails, rica even mentioned to me that she's excited to see the design of chris' invites.
when august came, chris sent the design to rica for quotation. the design was complete with specifications. it was chris' masterpiece and we can't wait to see the output. we were very excited.
last week, rica gave chris an estimated quote. we found it too pricey. so chris made alterations with the design and sent it again this monday. it was yesterday that chris called to confirm the costs of invites. and it was ONLY then that rica dropped the news like a bomb.
what hurts us most was that rica was a friend that we trusted. she could have told us in june or july what the situation was, just to warn us or something. but she waited til we were able to send the design TWICE and were settling the final costs. she could have had the etiquette or decency to tell us beforehand, knowing that we're both overseas, SANA she was sensitive enough to know that chris and i were somehow not accessible enough to find suppliers that easy. hindi biro ang mag-organize ng wedding overseas, lalo na kung magkahiwalay ang bride and groom.
chris and i cried together because we felt cheated and betrayed. ang sakit sakit ng ginawa nya lalo na kay chris.
when we were talking and somehow trying to cope with the pain, i said " let's try to be happy, kasi malapit na ang bday mo" and he said, "oo nga, happy bday to me". lalo akong naiyak. a person as nice as chris, he doesn't deserve to be betrayed just like that.
please don't get us wrong, we were not merely crying just because of the invites (invites lang yan, marami pang suppliers dyan na baka mas magaling pa), we are hurt we can't believe somebody we treated as a friend can be mean to us at a time like this. it's hard to trust people tapos bigla kang iiwanan sa ere (take note, we only have 4 months before the wedding).
after talking to chris, i called our wedding coordinator regarding this concern and as any professional coordinator, she has a solution already. hopefully, we'll be able to negotiate with a new invites supplier soon.
so now we're moving on. we've cried about this and that's enough. no more sense in more crying over spilled milk. maybe someday, we'll be able to forgive (more than anything else, this is about friendship that's lost), but things will never be the same again. we will never forget the pain and trauma that AMIS has caused us.
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